Rules of Dating.....

Ok so we all know about stay safe when dating, making sure that someone knows where you are but there are some other rules to follow....
I have spoken to men & women about this so this is coming from both sides......enjoy!

He asks, she pays: The one traditional dating "do" that still stands is the general belief that men are supposed to make the first move. However women are now offering to pay on the first date. Men did you hear that? If you ask us out for dinner, we might just foot the bill. Sounds like a win-win situation to us!

 All it takes is 15 minutes: And no I am not talking about sex! Minds out of the gutter             people!!! To decide if you & your date have chemistry. Apparently 31% of both men & women agree that 15 minutes of a date is all it takes to decide. Worried that your next date will bail if they are not into you, don't only 12% of singles would actually leave before the night was over and even I wouldn't do that & lets face it I go on some awful dates!

Honesty is still the best policy: Not enjoying your date? Tell him or her! Whats the point of spending an evening with someone who is grating on your last nerve. No-one gets anything our of being dishonest & you never know when you'll run into then again in later life......can you imagine if you have told them you are emigrating & you then bump into them! LOL

Don't go all the way: At least not until well after your first date! Holding out on your date builds mystery, and if your date can get it all in one night why would they bother wanting round two? Personally, I make sure my legs need shaving & my underwear doesn't match, that why no-one is getting a look at me!

Its ok to follow up: Its just a matter of when? Most women like to follow up within 24 hours, men like to play it cool and can sometimes make women wait for up to 3 days.....Right I like to send a brief text thanking the man for a lovely evening, the lines of communication are then open. Men if you make us wait for up to 3 days we are going off the boil & we lose interest. We don't need to be bombarded with texts, emails etc but just a hi how are you is nice!!!

Yes you can Facebook friend your date: Ah social media.....do you or don't you facebook your date? Personally I like to see what they have on their facebook, but then I am extremely nosy! But do you wait until the relationship is established before you friend them?

Spend time with your friends: Don't forget you have friends! And don't shove your new date down your friends throats, we are pleased for you but we don't need all the details of every little thing they have said to you....

The past is the past: We all have a past, we all have ex's, some more than others....yes I mean me! But if you are still bitter about your ex then you aren't ready to date anyone else. Your date will glaze over if you go on about how nasty & evil the ex is, yes we know they are thats why you are back dating! Remember your dating history is a bit like your cv, make it interesting but keep it short. Its not this is your life. Your date wants to know about you!

Listen: Be attentive, listen to your date, ask questions, find out what the other person likes. Use open questions, you don't want a yes or no answer, remember you are both nervous. This is like a job interview!

Drink: Do not get drunk! That is so unattractive in a man or a woman! Control yourself, if you think you need dutch courage you are definitely are not ready for this!

Keep it simple: you don't have to spend a fortune to impress anyone, a simple lunch, a walk in the park, a visit to a museum can be lovely places to start & it will give you chance to get to know each other. Or you can go all out, hire a limo & buy bottles of champagne, but thats if you are taking me out...oh I like flowers, chocolates & cocktails!

Remember enjoy yourself, but not too much!